Tiptoes: If you think you are inlove, well, you’re not.
Because love isn’t what people “think”. It is what people “feel”. Simple as that.
Well, yea, it is a little complicated (and confusing) when you are exactly on the person’s shoes. And that’s the point. I am not wearing that kind of shoes right now so if you think you’re not inlove, better listen to me (or read this post).
Fall in love with someone that doesn’t make you think love is hard
Minsan talaga, kahit sarili mo di mo na maintindihan.
Yung mga oras na gusto mo pero hindi. Yung naiinis ka pero natutuwa ka. Yung nagseselos ka pero tinitingnan mo padin. Yung gusto mo na umalis pero di mo naman maiwan. Yung inis na inis ka na pero di mo naman magawang sabihin.
Isa lang naman explanation dyan. Mahal mo kasi yung tao o bagay na yon. Kaso, nasasaktan ka.
Di nanaman ako pumasok kasi kailangan ko na talagang kupletuhin yung requirements ko sa bago kong work. Tapos nagkitakami ni gf Quin para maglunch sa SM saka para mag-gala sa Intra kaso napunta kaming Fort Santiago kase nga ang init naman kase sa Intra. First time nya kase don kaya tinour ko sya. Madami akong shots. Kaso di ko pa na-aupload sa VSCO, check nyo bukas dali. Pero isa sa favorites ko yang pinned notes kase ang cool nung drawing. Kung sino mang nagdrawing nyan, hello po! idrawing nyo din po ako? Huehue. Tas hey! meron na kong recent ID pic! Parang walang pinagbago. Bumilog lang mukha ko. Hay, stress.
RelationSheeets: Your “someone’s” barkada.
They’ll be there once you hurt him intentionally or not. So stop being jealous and start making friends with your someone’s friends, and I promise, they’ll be one of your greatest groups, too!
Just not too close. You’ll also end up breaking up with them once you and your someone break up. And that’s not that easy.
RelationSheeets: F*ck buddies.
Sorry for the title. I just can’t think of another term that would literally describe this “relationship” and that would suit my list of titles.
It all started with one thing you can consider as normal or casual. Let’s say, coffee. Or fine dine. Or a ride. A simple yet fun dinner date with someone almost perfect for your taste. It’s already late and he asked you to stay at his place instead of having your way home alone. You said okay and let your mind imagine things that would, you think, happen.
- Getting rid of things i will soon miss.
Tuwing kelan ka naiinlove?
"Love at first sight" o "Kailangan ko muna syang makilala bago ko sabihing inlove ako sakanya".
May mga tao kasi na instant nilang nararamdaman at nasasabi na “sya na” kapag nakita na nila o unang kausap palang nila sa taong feeling nila nga e magiging karelasyon nila in the near future. Yung tipong di mo pa nga sya gaanong nakikilala, ni hindi mo pa alam kung anong pangalan nya, pero nararamdaman mo na yung creepy na feeling na may butterfly sa tyan na hindi ko nga din alam bat butterfly ang tawag nila don, pede namang bulate nalang, mas makatotohanan pa. Pero posible nga ba yon? Simula nung nagdalaga ako, hanggang kaninang umaga, akala ko din hindi yun totoo.
Sabi nga sa isang series na pinapanuod ko, when you’re single, all you’re looking for is “happily ever after”. But only one of your stories can end that way.” (How I Met your Mother, Season 1, Episode 4. Panuorin nyo, LEGENDARY.) Totoo. Everytime na magmamahal ka o kahit na magkakagusto ka palang, iniisip mo na na sana maging kayo na forevs. Pero kids, hindi.
Sa isang relasyon, kahit gano na kayo katagal, hindi nyo padin alam kung may magbabago ba sa partner nyo. Swerte mo kung tanggap nya yung nagbabago sayo. Pero usually, hindi. Kaya nagkakaron ng away and everything. “Hindi ka naman ganyan dati.” “Nagbago ka na.” “Akala ko ba ganto tayo?” Etc, etc.
May mga taong sobra makareact kapag nalaman nilang kayo na nung lalaking nagstart lang manligaw sayo nung nakaraang araw o kaya kayo na nung babaeng nakasama mo kagabi. Yun bang “ang bilis naman, easy to get?” Dati rin nabababaan ako sa mga ganon. Kesyo hindi magtatagal yon. Kesyo pampalipas oras lang yon. Etc, etc.
Pero kanina narealize ko, ang dami dami kong sinasabi. Ang daming sinasabi ng mga tao. Pero kung nagmamahalan naman sila, ano pang sense nung sinasabi natin? Bitterness. Sabi nga ni Ramon Bautista, kahit seryoso sya sayo o hindi, kung gusto mo sya, magiging kayo parin naman.
Pero seryoso. Pede mong maramdaman yung “love” na baduy kahit di mo pa sya kilala ng sobra o kahit alam mong niloloko ka lang nya. That’s one thing about love. Kambal nga sila ng Pain. They both demand to be felt.
Girls, when someone says he likes you, believe me, it’s true. But don’t expect you two have the same definition of "like".
RelationSheeets: Best Friend
If you think the sh*ttest break up is between you and your boyfriend, well, it’s not. Unless, if and only if, he is your best friend as well. Having this clearly-blurred space between you and your boyfriend may hurt a lot that I can never put into words, but seeing the best friendship you thought really is the best breaking into million pieces is indeed a nightmare.
Consider these things:
- Your boyfriend knew everything about you (or maybe not) because you say everything to him. Your best friend would know it all and every part of your everything not just because you say it but also because she/he just know you.
- Your boyfriend was always there when you needed him the most. Your best friend was always there even when you don’t need her/him.
- Your boyfriend would buy you anything. Your best friend would share with you everything she/he has or will have.
- Your boyfriend possibly had another girl. Your best friend, of course, have other friends but her/his BFF was only you.
- Your boyfriend would take some time to face your parents. Your best friend had the thickest and biggest face to let your parents see.
- Your boyfriend would ask anyone to help you on your homework. your best friend would definitely help you the way she/he can.
- You can have another awesome (or more awesome) boyfriend after breaking up. You can NEVER have another or better best friend when your friendship’s over.
Making a choice is not my objective on posting this blog. But making you realize that though your lovelife doesn’t go well, there are friends or bestest friends you’ll know along the way. I am not telling you to stay with them, but don’t take the chance to lose them.
But there are times when you just need to let go, because it’s not worth it anymore.
The words may sound bitter, but I’m just telling the truth, anyways. Some things are meant to be and some are not. Love is a big game and you don’t have any choice but play with it. And it’s not about winning or losing the game, it’s how you ended up there.
Some things are better be shown, some better be felt. Some just need to stay idle and wait for their turn. And, of course, some are not worth any other something. How can one say it’s not worth it? Maybe when they know they cannot take anything back in return of their “efforts”. Well, yes, that’s the thing. How hypocrite are you to say it’s worth it when the one you love doesn’t even show you they’re at least thankful of something you’ve given them? How long can you stay waiting for a train in an abandoned station?
Some things are worth waiting for, fighting for, and even dying for. You’re may be in love that you are willing to sacrifice anything to someone, but yourself too, is worth living for. Try not to overthink things and live your life for yourself first. Everything is worth holding on, but there are times when you just need to let go, because it’s not worth it anymore.